Everyone can enjoy sexual wellness, no matter your age, body shape or relationship status. It’s an important part of your overall health and wellbeing and is rooted in self-acceptance and open communication. Unfortunately, society’s messages on weight and age can make it difficult to feel fully confident and connected in your body.
Learning to embrace sex and body positivity can have a huge impact on your physical and mental wellbeing. Whether you're navigating intimacy in midlife, rediscovering desire after a body change, or simply learning to prioritise your own pleasure, you deserve to feel empowered in your sexuality.
Let’s take a look at how to improve your sexual wellness and how you can enjoy body positive sex by yourself or with a partner. Discover the best inclusive sex toys to use and our top tips for how you can embrace sexual wellness.
Love Yourself First
Body confidence isn’t about reaching a ‘perfect’ shape or size, it’s about feeling at home in your body and recognising its worth. For some, that confidence doesn’t come naturally, especially in a world full of narrow beauty standards that are promoted by the media. The first step to achieving sexual wellness is accepting your body as it is. Your body will change over time due to age, health and circumstances, but it’s important you learn to embrace your sexual wellness, no matter where you are in your life or what your body looks like.
Sex and body positivity are entwined, so learning to love yourself will likely help you improve your sexual wellness. Self-massages or play with sex toys can help you explore different sensations without pressure and reconnect with your body. Mirror work, where you complement and reassure yourself by talking to your reflection, can also help you embrace your sexual wellness.
Redefining What Pleasure Looks Like: How to Improve Sexual Wellness
When many people think about sex and body positivity, they focus on narrow, often unrealistic ideas shaped by media, pop culture and outdated beliefs. But pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all and isn’t limited to penetrative sex or conventional standards of attractiveness. You can enjoy body positive sex by yourself or with a partner in any way that feels good and builds your connection with yourself.
Your body, preferences, and needs may change over time, and that’s completely normal. What felt pleasurable when you were first learning to embrace sexual wellness may feel different as you get older, and the key is to embrace these changes. Body positive sex comes in all shapes and sizes, it’s just about what feels good and makes you feel confident.
The Mind-Body Connection in Sexual Wellness
Sexual wellness isn’t just about physical stimulation, the connection between sex and body positivity happens in your mind. How you feel about yourself, your body, your relationships, and your environment all play an important role in how you experience pleasure.
For many, stress and anxiety are two of the biggest barriers to sexual wellness. To embrace sexual wellness, you need to overcome your body image concerns, past experiences and overcome daily pressures to fully relax. Dressing in sexy lingerie can make you feel desired and self-confident, which will help reduce any fears or worries you may initially have had and let you enjoy body positivity sex.
Tools, Toys & Techniques for All Bodies
Sex toys aren’t just a great way to mix things up in the bedroom. With the right inclusive sex toys and techniques, you can rediscover parts about your body and feel more confident about body positive sex. From dildos to butt plugs, you can use sex toys to channel your inner desires and enjoy pleasure, no matter your body shape or experience.
Body safe lubes can improve your pleasure by reducing friction and improving glide, which can make it easier to experiment with different toys or positions. You may also want to try a new angle on body positive sex with couples sex toys, which are perfect to help you explore what you and your partner like and helps build a deeper connection.
Exploring different positions and angles can also help you embrace better sexual wellness. Pillows and support cushions can help improve alignment, while sturdy furniture gives you better support and can help improve your balance. Experimenting with positions that don’t require high flexibility, or stamina can also help improve the relationship between sex and body positivity.
Read more about how to improve your sexual wellness on our blog posts about Morning Sex vs. Night Sex: What Does Your Preference Say About You? and How to Reignite Desire as the Weather Heats Up.
