Love them or hate them, hand jobs play a key role in foreplay or non-penetrative sex for many couples. But, like all mutual masturbation techniques, your partner is likely to preface certain elements. In this blog, our experts have shared tips for giving a good handjob to make sure your next really blows your partner’s mind.
#1 – Speak To Your Partner Direct
When it comes to pleasuring your partner, there’s nothing embarrassing about asking them directly about their sexual preferences. A good handjob tip is understanding what they are likely to find pleasure in in the bedroom, ultimately saving you a lot of wasted time. This enables you to make the most of your playtime without questioning if your partner is turned on by what you’re doing.
#2 – Compliment Your Partners Speed
Penises are all shapes and sizes and, when it comes to the speed at which you carry out a HJ, it’s all about finding the balance between pleasuring your partner and keeping them on their toes. Whilst some people’s preference is hard and fast, don’t underestimate the impact of a slow and steady hand job. Consider using slow, long strokes to warmup and see where it leads.
#3 – Watch Your Partner Masturbate
If you’re unsure what turns your partner on, consider asking to watch them masturbate. Not only will watching your partner masturbate help you understand how they enjoy being touched, enabling you to take note of their technique, but what motions and speeds they react to the most. Not to mention that for some people watching their partner masturbate is a huge turn on which is all that’s needed!
#4 – Consider Using Lubricant
Dry and wet hand jobs offer differ sensations so, if you’re seeking exhilaration, lube could be the perfect addition to your playtime – just make sure it’s close by when you start! Don’t be afraid to use more lube than you think you’ll need, as a generous application arguably ensures hand jobs that much more pleasurable. If you want to take it a step further, consider using tingling lube to intensify the moment.
#5 – Don’t Shy Away From Applying Pressure
The great thing about hand jobs is that you’re in complete control from start to finish, meaning you can dictate what *does* and *doesn’t* happen. Instead of rushing to get the job done, consider slowing things down before speeding them back up again to enhance your partners arousal. You could also consider increasing the pressure you apply at the same time.
#6 – Don’t Overthink It – It’s Just A HJ
A hand job is what it is – a hand job. Don’t overcomplicate it by testing unnecessary hand movements to try to make the experience more exciting. Whilst it’s good to experiment, hand jobs provide a sensual experience that teases your partner ahead of the main event, so avoid overthinking the motion and go (quite literally) with the flow of your partners reactions.
Our Go-To Tips On Handjobs
So, there you have it! The next time you get under the covers, consider our tips on giving a good handjob for the best start to your playtime. Remember, don’t overcomplicate it and don’t be afraid to approach your partner about their HJ preferences!
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